Very understandable choices, they are all very laid back and relax type of game, while you like more action it seems? Stardew Valley is pretty good, it grows on you and kinda makes you care about your farm and town, I wouldn't mind playing that, Harvest Moon is just another farming game right? This gives me an idea, you could try Minecraft with her, there is a Harvest Moon modpack and a lot of other farming sim modpacks, you could also put in other mods too, rpg mods, Pixelmon mod <== good mod, medieval or sci fi, whatever you want, you could play something you enjoy and she can play something she enjoy all in the same game